Etiquette and a Torn Fan

I have been irritated the last twelve hours or so trying to figure out if I am a true fan or if I am just too loyal.  We have relationships (defined as how we relate to other people) every day and sometimes those relationships need to end, correct?

I'm sure all of you have seen in movies where a famous actor, actress, or athlete disappoints a child who looked up to the individual in admiration.  I know that is a lot of pressure on an individual as a person, but you did pick the role, did you not?

Anyway, with that scenario in mind, I'm torn.  I went to an event for the purpose of seeing the entertainment; an acapella group of guys who like to have and genuinely enjoy entertaining.   In 2014 I became a fan of this group as they did the opening song from The Lion King.  For those of you who do not know, my family is musical.  We all play multiple instruments, I went to school for music, and even used to play by ear, so when a chord is struck perfect and on pitch, my nerves tingle throughout my body.  Tight harmony like this is completely ignored and under appreciated these days.

The event I went to is known for its drunkenness of those "fortunate," so even though it confused me why they would have actual entertainment, versus background music, confused me.  

Here is where I am torn.

I enjoyed the show and was ashamed as I sat in the audience.  These men traveled, per request, and the crowd is talking over them in a drunken stupor.  I felt sorry for these men because from the stage, and from the back of the room, it did not look like anyone was listening or appreciating the music/show.  Standing on that stage, and based on some things said, I am sure these men were a bit confused if not completely insulted.  

After the show, I went and asked for a picture with these men to add to my collection of the times I have seen them.  The situation was awkward.  They seemed a bit reluctant as they hastily walked away.  Yeah, thanks for the photo, not that I traveled to purposely see you guys at all.  How rude?  How...is all that comes to mind.  

Circling back to the little kid scenario, that is how I feel.  Disappointed in something/someone I truly appreciated.  Is this where I should stop "following" them on social media because obviously, a rude audience overrides true appreciation?  But is this "true fan" behavior? I mean, look at fan of sports who follow teams through years of failure.  What does that say about those relationships?  But in those relationships are both parties reflecting appreciation towards each other?

Besides that "torn" feeling of a "break -up," now I almost feel stupid because I am not that little kid anymore.  I am not naive and stopped playing games a long time ago.  I know my place in the line of duty, meaning that as an entertainer you should remain in character during those hours of work as you are being paid, but I also understand the human nature in association to one another.  Maybe this is just a moment when priorities change and I should stop being that "girl" following a "boy band," no matter the actuality of talent.

At this point, all I have to say is, don't forget your fans or even your "fans."  Keep in mind those who genuinely value you.  They are the ones who believed in you and the reason you may be where you are in life now.  You never know who is looking at you in admiration, so why not be something worth that admiration.

P.S.  I am a bit of a direct fan when it comes to honesty, making me a fan worth of admiration.

Disappointment in HATE

We are a little over a month into the new year and already I am avoiding certain social media (Facebook) as much as possible.  Many changes have occurred and fuelled an obsession of hate among many people.  I have always prided myself on surrounding myself with positive people, people who support and strengthen those around them because they stand for something.

But many of you (yes, I know you may read this) have disappointed me.  You are not the strong people I once knew.  You stand and accuse others with verbal poison because a person does not agree with you 100%.  How dare you spread hatred.  Whatever indignified opinion you have of others has now been defined by your ignorant attitude.  I HATE to use these, but :

Grow up!

Act like an adult!

Be an example!

(If I need to continue with those cliches, then you really were not listening anyway)

I am not saying roll over on your beliefs.  HELL, please do the opposite, but there is method of doing so that people take you seriously and ACTUALLY listen to what you have to say.  Ranting and raving in anger depicts a child throwing a tantrum, I'm not saying many of you are not capable of that either.

For as long as I can remember, my mother has taught me two things; two common things that many of you know:

If you don't like it, change it.

Treat people the way you want to be treated.

.....LET ME REPEAT

If you don't like it, change it.

Treat people the way you want to be treated.

Do I need to say it again?

I do not like all this hatred spread all over.  I have never felt so sorry for anybody like this except my ex.  I truly hated him.  I hated him to the point of where I was only hurting myself, physically.  Seeing poison spread from people I used to admire and know are better than childish antics also makes me ill.  I see positive supportive people crumble to the hatred.  I see people in leadership positions or are role models accuse people who have opposite viewpoints as them for being "toxic" (DUDE! LOOK IN THE MIRROR!)  Left/right, black/white, none of you are helping each other. And those of you who used to believe in something that decided it is "safer" to "fall for anything" are weak and submissive in your hypocritical choices.

I don't know about the rest of you, the people I once admired, the people I believed the best in, the people I believed had potential to be great, but I'm going to squash hate.  My social media is going to be cluttered with positivity, achievements, proud moments, ...happiness.  I am not going to spread hate because someone does not agree with me, but I'm also not going to cave on my morals/values.  I will stand up for what I believe for progression in a positive direction.  

This is me NOT being quiet.

P.S.  How is it that these two can find happiness in differences and many of you cannot?  I challenge you, to be better.