Too Many of the Wrong Excuses

This week as I found a new focus in life, leaving baggage behind that should not have been significant prior, I came across many interesting people who either did not know what they were saying or were truly as ignorant as I thought them to be.  These were people who had done something wrong whether offend a patron or replacing a friend out of fear and were feeling guilty.  So first these people blame the thing closest to them or blame the person who confronted them.  If this does not work they make the ultimate mistake, obvious to anyone with a bit of intellect, and make the statement, 'Well, that is how I am....,' which is sometimes followed by, '...you just need to accept me like I accept you.'

I get a migraine just reading those lines out of annoyance for the ignorance these people have to what they are actually doing.  

Well, that is how I am.....

I have a coworker who does not know how to sensor her thoughts that splurge out of her mouth, so what comes out is repeatedly offensive.  Now the excuse is that this rude behavior is a defense mechanism, but when you watch patrons look at her and wrinkle their noses you understand that what she said was not appropriate. (Not to mention I have received complaints shortly after her mouth has 'fired off').  How does a person receive such praise and yet be so ignorant at the people around to know that the words and how you say things become prejudice sounding and no one would want to be around you then?  Am I missing something?

...you just need to accept me like I accept you.

 That is like saying I can get away with anything because I am a girl or that a person is rude because he is a guy.  How does that logic make sense?  Since when did we stop holding people accountable?  On person both lines above to me, to which I scoffed.  A person in your life has been loyal by your side through an emotional self-recognition, you replace the person with new people including all the traditions you both held with no regard prior or after, and yet you blame the friend for you being disrespectful?  That is how you are and the friend is suppose to accept and forgive you each time you stab that person in the back?  Where is the logic?  There are reasons that punishment exists, it is because when you do something wrong you should not do it again.  This is like saying it is acceptable for a sex addict to cheat on their significant others.  Where is the common sense? Or more so, where is the humanity?

Maybe I am weird, but making excuses so a person can break rules, be rude and disrespectful, or do something wrong is not acceptable.  If that were the case, then boy, I am missing out on all the mischief I can get into.  I have just been troubled by this concept because these people do not feel any remorse.  I guess it is up to everyone out there reading this.  Do you accept excuses with the idea 'that is just how it is' or do you make people accountable?  I hold people accountable and if that person will not own up to what the excuse is for, then I guess I have time to move on and find someone with more similar morals that match mine.