Sexual Intelligence

Tonight I learned a new term: Sapiosexual.  It sounds funny and it looks funny, but in my opinion holds a lot of quality.  I came across this term as I was looking up the possibility that one person's attraction can change based on personality or intellect.  A Sapiosexual is a person who is attracted, including sexually attracted, to another person base on their intelligence.

Now keep in mind this does not mean that a Sapiosexual is not attracted to physical attributes, but it is the mind that is the primary appeal.  I continued my research with nothing to substantiate the fact that looks change based on personality and mind except  from the people I associate with as they are obviously intellectual as well.  However, there is always that one 'mind' that, like the rest of the shallow modelizing world, would rather  be with a person, mainly sexually, based on physical attributes even though there is no intellect whatsoever.  Well, I found one of my friends in this godforsaken category to which I began to swear obscenities in my head because I had always considered that this smart person deserved so much more in life.  Unfortunately, this person just wants another individual to use in comparison so this person appears better than the individual. 

I hate to admit it, but an intellectual person is not a true intellect if you have to “dummy-down” everything around you so you look better.  Honestly, it just makes you look as dumb as the person you are with.  Therefore, now my tune has changed toward this person and I wonder how truly knowledgeable this person is actually.  A person of intellect pursues more intellect to keep growing and learning, so how can this person be sexually attracted to just physical?

I guess my downfall in all this is that I have a brain, I value people with brains, and I do not have patience for idiots, which is rightfully so.  In concerns to my friend, well, I guess I am wrong that this person deserves the best as you will not find the best of something in the shell, but deep inside.  Then again for someone who has only been a shell for many years, inside does not matter.

So where does this leave me, the Sapiosexual who values a mind.  Confused.  I contemplate how much I want to invest in something that will not make me a better person as that is what everyone should look for when choosing to surround themselves with other people. It could be that I have a high opinion and do not want to become one of those people who cannot have an intellectual conversation. I guess the next time I call a person shallow I will have an clearer understanding of what “skin-deep” truly means.